My first suggestion would be to have a Trust Fund set up at a local bank that you have a relationship with. Based on your posts regarding not feeling comfortable asking for help, you may want a forum friend familiar with your plight to make the donation requests on behalf of you and your family.
I would also tie a Paypal account into it as some people prefer to donate that way rather than sending checks or making wire transfers.
BTW - I have stuck the thread for you so it will not fall off of the front page.
